I have figured that before a woman (and even men) starts dating, it is very important for one to be “The Best Person of One’s Own Self”. This is the most important because without it, most likely, our relationships will fail. It means that before we enter into another relationship, our goal must be to pursue being the best person that we can be physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally.
I realized that being one is a spirituality, a lifestyle, and a mentality. It is more than just looking pretty, “acting” like you are not too interested, dressing elegantly, and practicing “scripted” lines to every replies. If we disregard this, we tend to become needy, clingy, insecure, and “trying too hard” because we do things, not out of “love” but out of “desperation” and most of the times it makes us settle into something less than what we deserve since we do not think that we are THAT great. We tend to think, “I am not meeting anyone else attractive who are attracted to me so I might as well just settle with him.” and all that stupid lies we put in our subconscious mind.
You see, when you are already CONTENT with yourself, with your persona, with who you are, you wouldn’t care less about being with people who don’t love you. You choose to love those who love you and avoid toxic people who only brings you drama. When you are finally the best person you can be, you wouldn’t care less whether a guy just poofs out of nowhere or stopped calling and texting because you know that you are enough, that you do not need any other mortal being to complete you – you are already complete like a delicious cake with all the perfect ingredients, and “Mr. Right” is just your icing on the cake, a finishing product. He is like a glossy top coat finish over your perfect nail polish.
So, please, have faith. No matter how hard things might seem at first, you will get used to it. Do not let rejection, breakups, and “the guy who did not call you back” break your heart totally. Remember, you were able to live without them for a very long time, what makes you think you can’t leave without them at all? Whatever happens, you will be just fine.
p.s. WE ATTRACT WHAT WE THINK. If you are a spiritually healthy person, you will attract a spiritually healthy person also. So we might as well spend our time thinking of positive thoughts and acting out on it instead of wasting precious time with negativity.